Nicki had always dreamed of becoming a mum. But after her breast cancer treatment in 2019, she was advised that having biological children wasn’t an option for her. It was a heartbreaking moment, but it also marked the beginning of a new path — adoption.
At first, Nicki wasn’t sure if being single would be a barrier to becoming a parent. After attending a webinar and doing more research, she discovered that her dream was still very much possible. Being a single adopter was just one part of her unique journey — not a limitation.
In 2022, while she was still undergoing radiotherapy, Nicki applied to adopt. However, her doctors recommended she finish her treatment and take time to recover before starting the adoption process. So, she waited, allowing her body to heal and her spirit to prepare for the road ahead.
The adoption process was deeply personal — like a form of therapy. I found myself reflecting on everything from my childhood to past relationships. It was challenging at times, but I actually enjoyed it because I love talking and sharing my story.
There were moments when Nicki felt nervous about being a single parent, but she never felt alone.
“I have an incredible support network — family, friends, and colleagues who are always there when I need them.”
The training she received was eye-opening and invaluable. “Hearing directly from other adopters and connecting with people on the same journey gave me so much comfort and strength.”
Nicki’s social worker became a constant source of support. “She was always there, answering my questions and offering guidance. Even now, we keep in touch, and I love updating her on my daughter’s milestones.”
When it came time to match with her daughter, Nicki was aware of her health needs. “I never hesitated because I knew I could care for her — and my social worker and I discussed everything openly.”
As her daughter grew, Nicki began to notice traits of autism. While they await a formal diagnosis, Nicki draws strength from the support of her family and work colleagues. “My nephew has autism, so I’ve learned how to understand and manage behaviours with love and patience.”
Maintaining connections with her daughter’s birth mum and siblings through letter contact is deeply important to Nicki.
“It’s a vital part of the child’s life and something all adopters respect when it’s part of the plan.”
But nothing compares to the moment Nicki first met her daughter. “Her smile lit up the room — it was infectious. Our bond has grown stronger every day. Knowing that she’s had a tough start in life, and that I’m here to support and love her, makes every step of this journey worthwhile.”
